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Thursday, February 17, 2011

Self defense for women

A friend who cares emailed this to me, which i am thankful.  I am compelled to share this to every women on the streets for self protection against attacks from evil minded persons.

Subject: Katipunan Incident by Jim Paredes
Jim Paredes wrote: Katipunan , QC incident
 Dear friends,
  Many of you may not have heard of the incident that happened to a
 friend of my son last week at about 6:30 pm right in front of the
 thickly-populated area of BPI-Katipunan, near shoppersville. she
 parked her car right in front of BPI to make a withdrawal and to do
 some groceries.

 As she was getting into her car after doing her chores, a man suddenly
 appeared beside her and tried to bully her into moving to the
 passenger seat. when she pressed her car horn to call attention, he
 pushed her in the car and pinned her down with his elbow on her neck.
 it was a good thing that she had the presence of mind to continue to
 struggle and press on her car horn to catch attention(even if she had
 to use her foot to do this) Her assailant even tried to make people
 believe that it was a domestic matter by telling the crowd not to get
 involved as it was a "private matter". But with the onlookers
 multiplying by the second, her assailant finally gave up and ran. that
 was when she stood up and shouted for help. Thank God the guy got
 caught and is now under police custody.

 Last saturday, during the inquest, she told me that what gave her the
 guts to fight her assailant was the article "THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES"
 forwarded to our e-groups! about a week prior to her attack. I am
 re-forwarding the article (you can find it at the bottom of this
 (e-mail) for everyone's benefit. please tell your friends, family, and
 loved ones about this. It works. may i just add that to a certain
 extent, we have to get ourselves involved if we see violence being
 committed on anyone like calling on a security guard or a police
 officer even if it appears to be a domestic matter. It seems that a
 lot of attackers use that tactic to get away with violence. Not many
 people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
 situation. Everyone, please be very, very careful.

 FYI - Through a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in
 prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim
 and here are some interesting facts:

 1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
 They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid
 or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to
 go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common

 2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
 who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
 around to cut clothing.

 3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through
 their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are
 off guard and can be easily overpowered.

 4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is
 grocery store parking lots.

 5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

 6] Number three is public restrooms.

 7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
 and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
 worry about getting caught.

 8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
 because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
 after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

 9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or
 other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their

 10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to
 the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
 these guys you're not worth it.

 1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or
 with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask
 them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
 can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now
 that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,
 you lose appeal as a target.

 2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
 you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to
 said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
 not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY

 3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
 it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
 SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

 4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
 do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
 behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
 armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this
 guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
 trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
 and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
 yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

 5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
 particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
 is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
 make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
 instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
 trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

 6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
 and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
 down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
 much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

 7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
 your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
 odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
 little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really
 was trouble.

 I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be
 some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading,
 forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in
 this crazy world we live in.

 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your
 body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

 2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks
 for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from
 you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
 purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN

 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back
 tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like
 crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has
 saved lives.

 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,
 working, etc., and just sit
 (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The
 predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for
 him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell
 you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or
 parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
 hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the
 passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE

 b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the
 passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
 them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their

 c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and
 the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest
 your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a
 guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE
 THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
 horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
 RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;
 And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may
 get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a
 good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies
 of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often
 asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when
 he abducted his next victim.

 I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a
 life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going
 to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
 wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as

 Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the
 world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than

 Jim Paredes

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